RULZ

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Farewell Timmy 5th July 2008

Today July 5th, 2008 I write another sad story of mine. Departing of a good friend. Departing of a loyal friend. Departing of a faithful friend. It’s Timothy (Timmy) my pet dog being with us for almost 10 years.

The memories run back 10 years. Timmy is the best gift I’ve ever got from my Best friend in 1997, it was hard to separate him from his siblings at that time. The small one was always the center of attraction among his sister and two brothers. And he was lucky enough to live beyond his siblings life span.

I am not sure exactly the time he passed away, I assume it was today early morning (1 a.m. to 3 a.m.) his last breath was taken away. The body still had a light warm when I discovered him under my sisters bed around 9.45. He missed his usual tea and it made us to find him everywhere. I know I am writing like a kindergarten kid but no words are coming out.

So we decided to wait till my sister comes home for the Burial. Actually Timmy was a gift to her for her good results during the OL exams back in1997. And most of the time Timmy spend time with her every time my mom was not at home. Its me who always protected him when getting beaten up for all the naughty things he did. So no matter what, he always used to come to my room at night to get his neck rubbed before I go to sleep.

For the last 10 years its Timmy I’ve always grab into my lap and hug whenever I went through shitty situations. Now I guess it’s time for me to move on. After all that’s life I guess.

My 1st Job... I mean my 1st real job

It’s been a long time since I last posted. My life has changed dramatically. One loveable sister already departed, and other one to leave soon. Several things happen in my life..some good and some bad. I dunno? I will leave that to u!
Going to Kovil early Saturday morning has now become a habit. Few things happened during the last 2 years which I cannot describe myself. Even though I tried my self hard I still have no answers. And I still pray god every Saturday morning for his grace, wisdom, encouragement and will power without which my life would be harder than I can ever imagine for last couple of months.
Its been a hard and fast journey. I finally submitted my FYP on time, and both my Supervisor and Assessor were impressed in the way I did my presentation. Finally I have done with my university life. And for me I still feels like in 2004 September 14th… the day we started our Degree as fresh school leavers at a Strict Professional Institute called APIIT. Soon after my Uni Exams, my sis got married. It was a Grand wedding and everything went nicely and smoothly as we all expected. And again thank you God for your grace, wisdom, encouragement and will power to keep my family going through all ups and downs. I wish all the very best for my sister and new brother in law for a wonderful and lovely life ahead of them with millions of beautiful babies and Gods prayers for both to stand thick and thin to each other through out their medical profession.
And today 2nd June 2008, I got my first real paid job. The place I used to work for my Internship. A dream come true, an excellent opportunity with an excellent package. What else can I ask from u dear God. And again thank you for your grace, wisdom, encouragement and will power given to me constantly through out my life to reach my dreams and achieve my goals for each year.

Officially done with ma Degree :)

LOLz :D

Some Serious Thoughts

Never explain yourself to anyone. Beacuse the person who likes you doesn't need it, and the person who dislikes you won't believe it.

Don't let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life...Relationships work best when they are balanced.

In life just don't trust people, who change their feelings with time...Instead trust those people whose feelings remain the same, even when time changes...

We make them cry who cares for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life., its strange but true. Once you realise this, its never too late to change.

There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth - not going all the way, and not starting - Buddha

Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish - Steve Jobs

A loving heart is the truest wisdom. - Charles Dickens

Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.

Sometimes life is gonna hit you on the head with a brick, but don't loose faith. You got to find what you love.

Sometimes you have to free the things you love the most to deserve what you destined.

If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.

I dream, I test my dreams against my beliefs, I dare to take risks, and I execute my vision to make those dreams come true.

Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.

The empires of the future are the empires of the mind. - Sir Winston Churchill

The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.

Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.

Few people know that they have the power to bless life. We bless the life in each other far more than we realize. Many simple, ordinary things that we do can affect those around us in profound ways.

Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic - Arthur C. Clarke

It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer.

The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.

Think Win-Win

Win/Win is one of six total philosophies of human interaction.

1. Win/Win - People can seek mutual benefit in all human interactions. Principle-based behavior.

2. Win/Lose - The competitive paradigm: if I win, you lose. The leadership style is authoritarian. In relationships, if both people aren't winning, both are losing.

3. Lose/Win - The "Doormat" paradigm. The individual seeks strength from popularity based on acceptance. The leadership style is permissiveness. Living this paradigm can result in psychosomatic illness from repressed resentment.

4. Lose/Lose - When people become obsessed with making the other person lose, even at their own expense. This is the philosophy of adversarial conflict, war, or of highly dependent persons. (If nobody wins, being a loser isn't so bad.)

5. Win - Focusing solely on getting what one wants, regardless of the needs of others.

6. Win/Win or No Deal - If we can't find a mutually beneficial solution, we agree to disagree agreeably - no deal. This approach is most realistic at the beginning of a business relationship or enterprise. In a continuing relationship, it's no longer an option.

The most appropriate model depends on the situation. When relationships are paramount, Win/Win is the only viable alternative. In a competitive situation where building a relationship isn't important, Win/Lose may be appropriate. There are five dimensions of the Win/Win model: Character, Relationships, Agreements, Supportive Systems and Processes.

1. Character is the foundation of Win/Win. There must be integrity in order to establish trust in the relationship and to define a win in terms of personal values. A key trait is the abundance mentality that there is plenty for everybody (v. the Scarcity Mentality). The abundance mentality flows from a deep inner sense of personal worth and security.

2. Relationships are the focus on Win/Win. Whatever the orientation of the person you are dealing with (Win/Lose, etc.), the relationship is the key to turning the situation around. When there is a relationship of trust and emotional bank account balances are high, there is a much greater probability of a successful, productive interaction. Negative energy focused on differences in personality or position is eliminated; positive, cooperative energy focused on understanding and resolving issues is built.

3. Performance agreements or partnership agreements give definition and direction to Win/Win,. They shift the paradigm of production from vertical (Superior - Subordinate) to horizontal (Partnership/Team). The agreement should include elements to create a standard by which people can measure their own success.

1. Defined results (not methods) - what is to be done and when.
2. Guidelines - the parameters within which the results should be accomplished
3. Resources - human, financial, technical or organizational support available to accomplish the results.
4. Accountability - the standards of performance and time(s) of evaluation.
5. Consequences - what will happen as a result of the evaluation.

The agreement may be written by the employee to the manager to confirm the understanding.
Developing Win/Win performance agreements is the central activity of management, enabling employers to manage themselves within the framework of the agreement. Then the manager can initiate action and resolve obstacles so employees can do their jobs.

There are four kinds of consequences that management or parents can control - Financial, Psychic, Opportunity and Responsibility. In addition to personal consequences, the organizational consequences of behaviors should be identified.

4. The Reward System is a key element in the Win/Win model. Talking Win/Win but rewarding Win/Lose results in negating the Win/Win paradigm. If the outstanding performance of a few is rewarded, the other team members will be losers. Instead, develop individual achievable goals and team objectives to be rewarded.

Competition has its place against market competitors, last year's performance, or another location or individual where cooperation and interdependence aren't required, but cooperation in the workplace is as important to free enterprise as competition in the marketplace. The spirit of Win/Win cannot survive in an environment of competition or contests. All of the company's systems should be based on the principle of Win/Win. The Compensation system of the managers should be based on the productivity and development of their people. Reward both P (production) and PC (building production capacity).

5. The Win/Win process has four steps.

1. See the problem from the other point of view, in terms of the needs and concerns of the other party.

2. Identify the key issues and concerns (not positions) involved.

3. Determine what results would make a fully acceptable solution.

4. Identify new options to achieve those results.

You can only achieve Win/Win solutions with Win/Win procedures. Win/Win is not a personality technique. It's a total paradigm of human interaction.

T h e B e s t M o m e n t s I n L i f e

1. Falling in love :(

2. Laughing till your stomach hurts :)

3. Enjoying a ride down the country side :)

4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio :)

5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside :)

6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy towel :)

7. Passing your final exams with good grades :(

8. Being a part of an interesting conversation :)

9. Finding some money in some old pants :)

10. Laughing at yourself :)

11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends :)

12. Laughing without a reason :)

13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say somthing good about you :)

14. Watching the sunset :)

15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life :)

16. Receiving or giving your first kiss :(

17. Feeling this buzz in your body when seeing this "special" someone :)

18. Having a great time with your friends :)

19. Seeing the one you love happy :(

20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume :(

21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories :)

22. Hearing someone telling you "I LOVE YOU" :(

"True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and come in the bad times.....without calling."

I'm 23 now...Phew

As the time passes by we all become old... A friend of mine ones said growing old is mandetory and growing up is optional..pick your choice?
Anyways my 23rd B'day was soo remarkable with a suicide bomb blast near my house. And i still pray God for saving my mom's and sister's lives with his mercyfullness.

People, Thank you very very much for all the warm birthday wishes…posted on ma wall, fun wall, super wall, post-it items, booze mails and sent personal messages, instant messages, emails, e-cards, letters, post cards, phone calls, anonymous phone calls, MSN personal messages, Jolly Greetings, and SMSs... as well as for the free gifts, graffiti, hatching eggs, growing gifts, actual gifts, pre-paid pizza deliveries, gift vouchers, Audio CDs, more live fish for my fish tank, aliens for my solar system, surprised lunch outs and not so surprised dinner outs :) …and etc. etc.

.. & .. man.. all those cakes thrown @ me.. yum yum yum & yep yep yep... i'll surely remember to throw... some @ you as well.. on your coming b'dayz. :)

Its been 7 years...

Its been 7 years i am not a pilot neither an Aero Engineer.
And i am still dreaming to become one.